Monday, January 25, 2016

My Connections to Play-My younger self and Play Today

What I remember most from own childhood and play was the sense of freedom.  I was allowed to use  anything I could collect, transport, or carry to play with.  There were very few limitations placed on my imagination.  These leaves represent my favorite time of the year growing up because although we would have to help rake the leaves when they fell to the ground, we had a good week of fun before we actually had to transport them to the burn pile.  We would pile them up and jump in them, wow, I wish I had the energy to do that now.  It was so empowering.  Then we would use the leaves to make outlines of houses, schools, stores, garages and create an entire city of leaf buildings.  We'd take our dolls and make beds in them.  We'd park our bikes or trikes in the leaf garage.



 The picture of the cardboard house represents the hours of play we used to get whenever my dad would bring home a big cardboard box.  We made houses, trains, boats, cars, beds, chairs, tunnels, pretty much anything and everything we could climb on, crawl through, or hide in.  It always felt so safe and cozy tucked away in my cardboard construction.  It was mine. I made it, many times it was a community affair with neighbors helping out.
I had very few toys that were commercially store bought.  We didn't have a lot of money, but I do remember having barbie dolls and spending many hours with my friends and their dolls, dressing them creating stories about what adventure they were going on that day.  We made doll furniture out of cardboard boxes or empty containers, we used cloth from the ragbag to make clothes for the dolls.  
All of these memories make me reflect on the difference between then and now.  Today kids have so many toys and yet they seem to not be able to use them in various ways, or imagine stories and play scenarios that are as deep as I remember.  My toddler granddaughter gravitates towards the toys that have the buttons to push that make sounds or light up something.  They don't seem to keep her attention like the toys I remember.  But this Christmas, when we were all in the midst of having her open up presents, she was way more interested in playing with the paper and the boxes than she was in playing with her new toys.  I think in some ways we have failed our children by creating so many close-ended toys.  Which is why I became a certified play coach.  I go around to different places in the state and conduct play workshops using recycled collections of objects to get adults back into the swing of play so they can better understand some of the "challenging behaviors" we see when children are only given short amounts of time and are expected to give up part of their materials to share with other students.  Many providers and teachers leave with a new perspective on a child's right to play and create and that it takes time and lots of materials to do it.  It can't be rushed.  We need to respect a child's right to investigate, create, build, and explore in their own time and on their own terms.


6 comments:

  1. When I think about play in back in my days I think about the little rascals...Lol, funny right!? Not because of the trouble they would innocently get into, it was more about the tools they used to play with. The Little Rascals used their imagination a lot just to have a day of fun. But what made me really think about them is the variety in the group. When I was growing our group of friends was very diverse just like the Little Rascals. Boys and girls played together and didn't matter how old your were or where you came from. Children just wanted to have fun in the sun!

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    1. You are so right, I remember the neighborhood kids playing kickball or hide-n-seek or kick the can with all ages and genders playing together, we made adaptations based on skills...kind of like developmentally appropriate practices.

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  2. Brenda,
    As always you made me think! You are so right when you said we have failed our children with so many close-ended toys. I never thought about it that way, but that was a perfect way to put it.

    How do you become a certified play specialist. Again, another of your exciting adventures I think would be neat to learn more about.

    Thanks so much for sharing your memories! It sounds like you had a wonderful childhood!

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    1. I was certified by Dr. Walter Drew at the Institute for Self Active Play. I am a level one coach and can conduct workshop on play endorsed by Dr. Drew for educators, parents, community members, etc. It is so powerful, check it out.

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  3. Brenda,

    I also enjoyed jumping in leaves as a child. I love the fall because of the leaves and football. I remember as a child playing football with my brothers in our backyard. We would line the end zones with leaves, so when we scored we could jump in the leaves. Thank you for sharing it brought up great childhood memories.

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  4. Hello Brenda,
    I agree with the statement you made about children today being spoiled. I remember having a lot of toys growing up like my child but, I actually spent time playing with them. My daughter would rather play on a tablet or phone than use her imagination. She plays with toys however, she her attention will last longer on a tablet game than with her physical toys. Th dynamics of play has changed so drastically since the earlier 90's when I was a kid. Overall, I think that play is in danger of becoming a thing of the past because of technology.

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